for those secret rebels who ended up in leadership (somehow)
I am excited to launch my first very own group later in 2023. It’s going to be for 3-5 leaders focusing on honing their leadership skills, in a mix of a curriculum and in the moment support – leaders who want to turn their secret rebel into the best asset of their leadership . This is just a sneak peek, because I’ll give birth in June, and then take things from there. However, please let me know here if you’re interested and want to get updates.
Let me have a guess: You sometimes question how on earth you ended up in a corporate leadership role. Not necessarily because you feel like you’re not up for the task, or because you actually don’t want to lead.
Rather, there’s a stubborn part in you that keeps feeling a little out of place.
The wild and free spirit you safely tuck away during work hours. There’s just no place for a rebel in leadership. So you keep it secret.
Yet, you sometimes wonder what could be. What if your «other ideas» actually would help to create a better world (company, team, results…)?
My hunch is that you met a lot of resistance when you tried in the past. Your passion and vision landed as too much. The big picture in your mind seemed too big, your plans too out there. What you want too far away from the established patterns. So they said no.
Maybe you didn’t even try, or just dip a tentative toe, because you intuitively felt it wouldn’t work. Maybe you failed spectacularly, and decided it’s simply not worth it.
However it went, you dampened your spirit and became more of a secret rebel than an actual one. Learned to please, accomodate and use your gifts to succeed and there you are, leader.
Never quite where you want to be, because where you want to be is bringing all of you to the table, so you can support your people with all your strengths.
About both Depth and Fun in Leadership
This is not a program that’s going to compartmentalise more. And one of the things I love most in my work is that we can have both depth AND fun.
We can do serious leadership work and get reflections, grow, be courageous – and we can also play.
Have fun together, build a supportive and empathic community. Bring our silly selves and humanity to the table. And I can’t wait for you to discover it’s not actually opposing leadership, but supporting it.
So what this group isn’t just aiming to unleash the secret rebel, so it benefits the world around you. This group is about you getting to be a more expressed and more whole version of yourself that happens to be AMAZING for who you are as a leader, too.
Curriculum & support in the moment
I love a good mix, so we will work on a mix of a curriculm and support in the moment. I’ll share the rough outline of the curriculum below and speak to the support in the moment, first: Life and leadership happen. They happen within the group, too, so each time we meet, we have an opportunity to look at them in real time. Some of the best stuff and changes that ever happened in my life were when I could catch stuff happening while having the safe environment and support to really look – right away, with everything present. This is why there will always be space for that.
There’s a curriculum bit to nail some of the foundations of change so we start to share the same model, concepts, language – and direction.
This is what I currently plan (no guarantees 😉 )
The framework and the magic of coaching and leadership:
We lay a foundation for our time together, that looks at both sides: What would be the magical thing you would LOVE to create in our time together (and you wouldn’t otherwise)? And what are some of the tools to actually get there?
The misconceptions that are common in the prevalent style of leadership:
Let me make an example here: You don’t have to be a dominant jerk to be a great leader. Neither it is about being all kind, doing the most work – basically sacrificing yourself. We look at more of those concepts, and why we tend to fall into either one extreme or another – how that can hurt your leadership and what to do instead.
The core concept of leadership from within:
How and why leadership starts inside of you. Even – or especially – when you really struggle with people around you. That’s actually kind of where leadership from within really begins, and where we start to move pretty far away from the prevalent version. What also goes in here: How to thoroughly source yourself as a leader. Hint: It’s not bubble baths 😉
The power of choice:
Have you ever given up on something because the whole world seemed to have conspired against you? We’ll look at generating choices we didn’t think we had and how they greatly open up your possibilities as a leader. We have a special look at the choices we make automatically and unconsciously because they can really hurt your leadership.
Change and getting stuck in «the messy middle»:
A couple of weeks or months in, the euphoria often dissipates. We’re inevitably facing our old demons. We may blame ourselves, or the program not making THE DIFFERENCE we finally expected – and that’s actually perfect because this is where sustainable change can actually germinate. And it’s for you as well as for your people getting stuck in the same. We’ll look at ways to elicit this lasting difference you probably came here for in the first place.
The conversational toolbox of a leader:
While leadership may start within, it ultimately always involves other people. With the toolbox, we look at ways to handle conflict and get real with each other. A big part of the toolbox is about giving and receiving feedback. What it means to have an (unintended) impact and how to deal with that. Lastly, how we bring out the best in people without trying to «fix» them.
The magic of peers around you
Do you ever feel lonely as a leader? Especially as someone committed to growth, reflection and bringing in more of your whole self to benefit the world around you? One of my main personal reasons to choose into my own groups over and over is that I found a family. Peers who really get where I am at. And that’s what’s on offer here.
We totally learn to be the lone wolves in our society, get stuff handled on our own. Appear strong, sovereign and composed at all times.
But in reality, we’re hardwired to be part of a community.
Ideally one that feels like a safe home – and this is exactly what is on offer here: I bet you’re creating way more of what you want in life with peers cheering you on, helping you normalise, share a cause with you. Support and love you for who you are, whereever you are with your full self.
Let me be honest: I had been terrified at first when I first started group work. Show up and be vulnerable in front of «everyone»? Woah, wait a second! So I want you to be clear that it’s not a choice you *have* to make.